Every time I have stepped into America, I have been asked the same question ‘So, were you born on 9-11?’. I just smile and nod. 

On my birthday today, I think this is the best time to make a promise to myself to be a better person. That’s the crux of life. This is what we were sent here for. This is the most important ingredient in a good relationship. If we are not good people, our relationships will eventually fail. 

I know I can lose the track and much more than often do things which I know I shouldn’t be doing. But today, I promise to make a resolution to myself to be a better version of myself.

I want to become a better human being, muslim, citizen, wife, daughter, sister, neighbour, employee, Tennis player, cousin, pet owner and friend. I want to be the best version of myself inside out in all my roles in life, now and forever. 

This day I promise myself the following:

1. Eat better

  • Vegetables
  • Fruits
  • Dry fruits
  • Seeds (flaxseeds, Kalongi etc)
  • Yogurt/Milk
  • Avoid crisps, cream
  • Avoid Oily/Fried foods
  • Do not consume more than 1 glass of Coke/Fanta/7-up in a week

2. Sleep better

  • Follow routine and not work late at night
  • Follow no-gadget hour before sleeping
  • Keep my cell phone on Airplane mode an hour before going to sleep
  • Read a book before going to sleep
  • Only think happy thoughts after 7 pm at night (no gloomy thoughts)

3. Stay focused

  • Complete daily to-do list
  • Schedule all monthly posts well in advance
  • Be punctual 
  • Don’t procrastinate. Complete work in advance
  • Read Quran with translation
  • Say all 5 Namaz even if it gets kaza
  • Do some social work/charity etc
  • Plant trees
  • Do not get distracted by social media, phone etc
  • Remember what we are here for 

4. Invest in relationships  

  • Continue to pray 5 times a day and read Quran regularly
  • Keep Haaris my priority and do things for him everyday
  • Keep in touch with important family members & friends
  • Make time for them
  • At least visit family once a year 
  • Send monthly audio messages to all best friends
  • Schedule Skype calls with family often

5. Exercise

  • Continue 2 hours Tennis everyday on weekdays after work 
  • Continue trekking/walking exercises
  • Complete 2 trails every month in summers

6. Be happy

  • Don’t criticise or whine 
  • Be positive
  • Crack jokes
  • Laugh on myself
  • Dance more
  • Get away from all negative energy
  • Don’t put my remote control for happiness in others hands
  • Stay in charge of my own happiness irrespective of circumstances

7. Do what I love

  • Continue take out time for my hobbies
  • Not procrastinate when it comes to painting/making journals
  • Continue petting others kitties/doggies till I get one of my own
  • No excuses for not doing things that make me happy
  • Plan ahead and make time for things that make me happy

8. Be courteous

  • Say Please, Thank you
  • Smile more
  • Be nice to household staff
  • Hold the door open for the person behind me
  • Be nice to everyone around me

9. Be patient

  • Control my temper
  • Breathe deeply, inhale and exhale at stressful times
  • Increase patience level by making an effort
  • Behave specially in days when everything is going wrong and I am about to lose it 

10. Don’t talk rubbish

  • When in doubt, throw it out
  • Speak less and cut it out
  • Try not to backbite or gossip
  • Try not to exaggerate

11. Look Better 

  • Make an even more effort every morning in dressing up before I start the day
  • Invest time in face/hair masks/natural remedies
  • Quick and efficient make up techniques
  • Learn different hair styles

12. Face my fears

  • Address all fears one by one
  • Discuss with an expert
  • Try to overcome the fears to live a more enriched life
  • Talk to friends about how they conquered their fears

13. Work on my weaknesses

  • We all know our weak points well
  • I need to work on how to resolve them
  • Procrastinate less

14. Grow as a person

  • Learn new things
  • See new places
  • Expand interests 
  • Listen to news 
  • Be open-minded
  • Think out of the box
  • Get out of my comfort zone
  • At parties sit next to people I don’t know

Where’s my birthday wish?

Would love your birthday wishes in the comments section. Have a great day!

These are some things I have decided to work on to become a better version of myself. What points do you agree or disagree with. Would love your comments.
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  1. Interesting article. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Bohat mazedar. Meri behn ki bhi yehi bday hai 9 11.

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