Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts

Sunday, 9 April 2017

15 Traits of a Man you Should NOT Marry

No matter how much we try, we can never ever change the nature of a man. So it's best to never get involved with a maniac and save your own self. Our life partners play a major role in our personality as marriage is the most important decision of our lives. If you are married to a gem of a man, your life will surely change for the better; but if you are stuck with a psycho, you will eventually go mad with him. With age and experience, one learns about different types of people. At a younger age, we are vulnerable and are not able to differentiate. It is harder to catch signs early in a relationship as potential husbands are trying to be at their best behavior. One of the traits of a narcissist is that he acts very charming so watch out as you may be falling for the wrong one! 

Thursday, 16 February 2017

Lets Talk Divorce

I have been following a blogger named Shehzeen who runs Desi Wonder Woman. Recently, she urged her readers to share their experience and be a source of hope for those who are suffering or are trapped in bad marriages. A lot of my blog fans have also been messaging me to share my story. I try to avoid talking about my past as it brings back terrible memories but I know we can only help others by sharing our experience. As divorce is becoming more and more common these days, I think it is more important than ever to be able to discuss these taboo topics and to be well informed before getting married. In case you're stuck in an abusive marriage, know what is the right thing for you to do. Since I have suffered it first hand, I feel I have a social responsibility in this society to create awareness against abusive relationships. Today, I will be very briefly sharing my past without badmouthing the ex by skipping what kind of a person he was. 

Friday, 23 December 2016

Marriage Lessons for Young Couples

It is true that we only learn through experience. But I feel it is too risky to learn about marriage once you're in it. Its best to learn through others experience and know whats right and whats wrong. I feel quite strongly about this topic. Honestly I would love to open counselling centres where girls, boys and mothers are trained on basic concepts of marriage. Many times, family members are the ones who spoil it all unknowingly. There needs to be basic training on how to become better people. Its our spouse who has to bear our bad habits. Everyone has different concepts on marriage but there are certain things which are black and white and there are no two ways about them. Following are the lessons I have learned:

Wednesday, 9 November 2016

8 Marriage Breakers - Know When the Game is Over

It is true that marriage is about compromises. However, we need to weigh what level of compromises are we expected to make. It is also right that marriage is for peace of mind. Marriage is about simple principles like kindness, respect and loyalty. One should always pray and hope for a good life partner. 

Wednesday, 12 October 2016

Know Your Rights Before You Get Married

Marriage is no doubt the most important decision of a persons life which is why we should always pray for a good life partner. A decision to marry a good man certainly makes your life heaven and a decision to marry a bad man surely makes it hell. Merely living can be a pain and torture if your'e stuck with the wrong kind. One can never get peace of mind in a terrible marriage. 

Wednesday, 7 September 2016

Say NO to Abuse!

I see so many wives suffering in the world. It haunts me to hear endless stories of hurt around me. Why would any sane human being want to inflict pain on the weaker one? He is not sane. He is a complexed, sadistic psychopath. 

What is it that makes him continue the abuse? Being silent is your sin. Hadh se zyada zulm sehna bhi gunah hai. By being quiet about the violence, you are encouraging immorality. 

You say you love him. Know that whoever abuses you has never loved you. Love is respect. He who can’t respect you is not worthy of your love. 

Tuesday, 5 April 2016

Questions to Ask Before You Say 'I Do'

Today I am sharing some thoughts on when a woman gets a marriage proposal. This is the biggest decision of both their lives and of course she just can’t enter it with no research nor questions. By the time a man proposes a woman, he has already done his research and is swayed to marry her. However, she also needs to be assured and convinced in order to say yes. This is a difficult time in her life as it is true that marriage is a gamble and no matter how much you investigate; you can never be sure till you live with the person. But for our own peace of mind, and chances of knowing the truth (before its too late), there are some important points we must discuss with him.

The list that I am sharing with you today has a lot of questions. Of course we don’t want to sound like investigators and interrogate our spouse to be. But casually or informally, I suggest knowing the answers to all the following questions before you enter a commitment. In many cases, girl and her family already know the answers to many of the questions below. All those can be crossed out. We all have different priorities so we may add or subtract questions from the list below. The points I feel are most important are underlined and we must address them before entering into a marriage contract.  

Wednesday, 10 February 2016

11 Things to do Before You Get Married

My dear readers, I hope you are well. Today my post is specially for all those who plan to get married or have a wedding in their family coming up. Before you get married, there are a lot of things which you need to do. I know many of you would be thinking 'Duh! Its obviously the wedding preparations'. But honestly, that is only one part of what I think one should do. The important part is not even related to wedding preparation. Any ideas what that could be? In my opinion, they are as under: 

Photo Credits: Waliya Najib Photography

1- Be thankful to Allah. Read the Quran 
Pray for a blissful marriage and a kind husband. I had realized I wouldn't be able to take out so much time every day for completing my Quran English Tafseer which I had started. So I gave myself the deadline of completing it before my marriage.