A Dialogue with an Abused Wife
This article goes out to all those facing abuse in their every day married lives in the hope for a better tomorrow.
I see so many wives suffering in the world. It haunts me to hear endless stories of hurt around me. Why would any sane human being want to inflict pain on the weaker one? He is not sane. He is a complexed, sadistic psychopath.
Ever since I started creating awareness about this, I have heard of a lot of such cases. Many girls have even called me up and told me their story. Unfortunately, most of them don’t have the strength to take any necessary steps. They keep tolerating abuse for the sake of their families or kids which is not right. This is how our conversation goes.
Why does he keep abusing me?
But I do love him.
I’m saving my home and I can’t even imagine leaving my home.
I pray one day he will change.
He is otherwise good to me. Marriage is about a girl’s compromise.
I can’t leave him only because of my kids.
The kids are worse off now as they are living on a battleground. Their little personalities are getting bruised up every time you both fight. It will be better for them to be away from abusive relationships even if it is at the cost of living without one of the parents.
Where will I go?
Who will support me?
But I can’t live without him?
No one will ever marry me if I get divorced.
Absolutely wrong. Countless examples of men around us in our society who choose to marry divorcees. I personally know so many. Most of them are happily married now. Focus on becoming the best person you can be. Being a divorcee shouldn’t be your worry. You need to free yourself from evil surroundings first and then expect goodness from the world.
What will people say?
Don’t be a victim, be a survivor.
Know your rights. Reach out for help.
Say No to abuse.
Video Links of Abusive Marriages
I am sharing a video link below from Samina Peerzada’s interview with Jugan where she talks about her abusive marriage and how she got out of it and is happily married now.
Here’s what Dr. Phill has to say about Abusive Marriages:
Following is a TED talk which will give you goosebumps:
Let’s break the silence to help other victims! Abuse thrives only on silence. Let’s create awareness and end this once and for all.
If you know someone who is suffering, please share this article with them. Let’s help them out.